Have You Ever Been Loved?

Or Totally Accepted

Have you ever loved yourself completely? That is the big question, isn’t it?

Most of us have not and do not know how. Our identity is so wrapped in beliefs and judgements, rules and commandments that it is hard to feel good about ourselves.

The interesting thing about all this is that these beliefs and commandments come from others like us. They have convinced us that if we follow or believe them everything will be ok. So we live with guilt, condemnation and low self esteem for a lifetime. Again, we are taught to believe in the imaginary God.

There can be no love without acceptance of ourselves and others. Judgement breaks all bonds that we have. Our ego is ok with that.

For love of any kind to grow there must be absolute acceptance without judgement. In a true love relationship it can only continue to grow with acceptance.

Hopefully you have found or live with the love of your life, but you realize that even in true love you are just starting to learn the importance of acceptance.

True love is surgery into our ego, projections, mind and emotions. For those who feel true love is easy or the end of the road you got another thing coming for you.

True love is a deep dive into vulnerability, truthfulness and acceptance. It is opening the doorway into our innermost self and sharing it with another who hopefully will do the same for us. No matter how difficult our life experiences have been.

Fear destroys relationships of all kinds and the unwillingness to face ourselves truthfully. It destroys them through trying to control another or the relationship, because they may push our buttons and reveal to us the anger or control we hide inside.

Whenever you are experiencing a disharmony in your relationships, first of all look within and own it. The issue you are projecting onto your lover or partner has its birth within you.

It is a sign to see the level of acceptance you are at.

Robert