I have to admit I have been guilty of this myself, most men are in a relationship. Men think they know what a relationship is, but most don’t
They can see their partner and children like accessory attachments meant to fulfill their successful life, as long as both do not completely interfere with their CARREER or WORK.
Most men, if they will admit it are self centered, egotistical and blind to what they feel, but never to what they think. We assume we know it all. Our partner and children are our possessions and their feelings are secondary to ours.
Sounds horrible doesn’t it.
For a relationship to be successful intimacy of the heart and vulnerability of our soul are essential at times. Relationships do not grow through neglect.
If you have found the love of your life, they are not in your life to just satisfy our physical and emotional needs. Outside of writing they are the cheapest therapy you can find.
They are not just another object to be owned and controlled. They are a mirror image of what we need to learn. They reflect back to us those unconscious faults that need to surface and be dealt with in as loving a way as possible.
Couples who argue or fight often by pushing buttons are helping each other to discover and own fears they share or have in common. This is not bad or wrong of them. It is how we can heal and grow deeper in love, but only if we listen and hear the truth our partner is sharing.
Conflict is meant to surface the hidden faults or weaknesses that prevent unity or wholeness in a love relationship. This applies to all of life and not just relationships.
To grow in love we must be willing to thoughtfully listen to our partner and seriously consider what they have to offer. Trust is built in listening to our partner and learning to value what they say. The value of our patience is in the reward it brings to both of us.
Robert
Excellent write, Robert. What you say is right on target. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.